I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer (HR2 negative; estrogen positive). I had 12 chemo treatments and then a double mastectomy. When I was reviewing my options about reconstruction, I looked at my amorphous body and bald head in a mirror and thought, “Wow, I don’t think I’ve ever felt more feminine or beautiful!” I then told the doctor: “Look, I just turned sixty and unless I’m going to be a pole dancer for Jesus, I don’t really need new ones! They were popular in junior high but I’m content praising God and thanking Him for the wonderful blessings He provided throughout my cancer year.”
What courage it takes women to face breast cancer! I am such a different person now with a stronger faith in Christ and a size smaller blouse (who doesn’t love that?). I learned that I can live without breasts, but I can’t live without my faith, family, and friends.
One of the things I did for myself during my chemo days was to create a chart for drivers to take me to my treatments. Twelve different friends took me 140 miles round trip to a treatment and it was life changing for them. Let people in and you will see such an exciting depth to your friendships. People want to be there for you. It gives them a sense of ease knowing that cancer doesn’t have to be scary and isolating. When those same friends face family or others who are newly diagnosed, they know immediately how to help and be a part of the process. We don’t ever have to be alone.